Mentoring is a powerful tool which can empower your life and your mentee’s life. As a mentor, you will not only help a special person; you will also increase your self-confidence, stay focused, and become empowered in the pursuit of your own happiness.
“I’d have to say I’m most proud of my mentoring camp that I do in Dallas every year for one hundred boys from single-parent homes. I was raised by a mother who was a Sunday school teacher and a father who worked hard. Together they taught me to give back.”
~ Steve Harvey
Mentoring Can Increase Your Self-Confidence
Want to boost your self-confidence? Mentoring someone and pinpointing different goal drivers will help your mentee and you. As a mentor, you inspire and push your mentee towards success. Yes – you do know something useful and it can help someone. Spending time with your mentee will bring a sense of self-worth and accomplishment to you; knowing that you are making a key difference in someone’s life.
As humans, we have an intrinsic need to socialize and help others. Psychology has proven that doing something good for someone else helps us stay happier and live longer lives. Being a mentor will relax your mind and allow you to better control fear, stress and anxiety.
Mentoring Will Help You Stay Focused
In a world where we micromanage too much, mentoring someone will allow us the opportunity to see life as a whole. Learning about your mentee will provide a different perspectives to the puzzle. As you engage in problem-solving and recommendations, intrinsic motivators will become more evident. Intrinsic motivators are the foundation of happiness which allows us to focus on goals which truly matter. Additionally, intrinsic motivators propel us towards self-accomplishment and success (we need something to stand for). Helping your mentee find a meaning in life, will help you tweak, refine, and empower your own life.
Positive encouragement will allow your mentee to overcome adversity and continue to grow. As you see your mentee overcoming barriers, you start to understand that the same advice you provided him can be used for your own personal development.
You Will Make A Profound Difference In Your Mentee’s Life
For me, it all started during high school years – when I was forced to “somewhat figure it out”. The year I became a senior, I applied for a local community-based mentoring program called “Big Brothers, Big Sisters”, and I was partnered with a “Big Brother” mentor. Initially, I never understood what motivated my mentor to show up once a week, as the program is a non-profit offering no financial incentives.
We would discuss my goals: grades, college, potential career paths, etc…and my relationship with my mentor grew more each day. He would visit in school, dressed sharp, and encourage me to follow-up on college applications, talk to new people, and step out of my comfort zone. My mentor would also share his adversities and success stories which inspired me to persevere. I then realized my mentor cared deeply about my happiness and wellbeing; he enjoyed being a role model, providing blueprints to empower my life.
Today, he runs his own full-service law firm with 5 team members. My mentor taught me that commitment, perseverance, and patience are the true key to successes. Commitment helps build a foundation for growth, while perseverance and patience moves you from failures to triumphs.
Bottom-line: Becoming a mentor will make a profound difference in your life, and your Mentee’s life. They say “teaching makes you learn easier”, and mentoring someone allows you to stay confident, focused, and empowered. Start today.