The greatest hindrance for us humans is the suppression and limitation that we the individual are creating for our self. In this article I go into depth about what actually happens to you in those times.
The 5 common things people are driven from, which hinders their flow is :
(5) Need for approval
All of these factors are highly self destructive, self inflicted, negative and overall non beneficial in the moment of time we find ourselves in them. They all hold a threat toward how we mentally are perceiving ourselves. Some type of threat that is going to bring us loss in some type of way. For a man of my realization this is highly absurd and is only a means of survival as these drives are linked to a primitive aspect of our minds. Its the unconditioned programming that we live from, unless however, we make the conscious choice to no longer entertain what it is that is happening among us. So now let me proceed to taking each one of these hindrances into depth, and also keep in mind that they all might sound familiar as its the same instinctive principal they are coming from.
(1) GUILT: People often feel shame for their actions of the past and self criticize themselves for the decisions they have made in past events. This is non beneficial to them as the decisions made in the past are no longer a means of the present. Some might argue to say “then how is it that I feel so bothered by my past decision” and the answer would be that, it is because you have not accepted your decision for what it was. Guilt is where the “I wish I could go back with what I know now” comes in, its a wish that you did something else so that the outcome could’ve been different in some type of way. The reality is that the guilt should be seen as a tool for learning. You should look onto your past decisions, especially the ones you regret and say, “ok I made this decision but will not let it define who I am, it was a mistake and I am now aware of the mistake I have made, I am thankful for this mistake as it has now allowed me to learn more of who I am.” Then simply move on. When you accept your decisions they no longer inhibit you but rather they allow you to grow. Without us making mistakes we could never accumulate more understanding and knowledge about ourselves. Mistakes allow us to grow as a human being and that is great.
(2)RESENTMENT: Sometimes we find ourselves in situations that it just seems that we absolutely dislike. This is completely understandable, we all find times where this occurs, but there is a tool for growth lying right among that resentment. Often times we resent things that we know nothing of and we completely cut ourselves from those situations, we become isolated thinking about how uncomfortable that we are in these times, of those situations. But if we open ourselves up to these situations we will grow. We will discover more about ourselves in times we are most resentful than the times that we are not. We will discover why it is we resented the situation from the beginning when we open up to it, or we will even find out the situation has come to something that we actually like. Both are a possibility in the time of resentment, because resentment just closes you down, makes you completely close minded to your own perception of a situation so if you open yourselves up you will be able to enter a different perspective of the situation.
ANGER: Anger is a powerful energy that drives us in a uncontrollable way. Anger will make you unconscious in the times that you become fully indulged into it, and only allow you to see your anger after you have became angry. Some of us hold onto times that have hurt us. We hold onto a painful past that we were most angry about and that anger determines our actions for our future moves. We are always trying to get back on the situation or the person that caused us so much pain and anger. That allows us to live within the limitation of that set future. We are no longer actually making choices and decisions for ourselves but rather we are making choices for another. Like all problems that we face, anger is also a tool for growth. Ask yourself “why am I mad,” “why is it that I’m this angry in the first place” and listen closely to what it is that your mind comes up with. Often times it will tell you “this happened to you, that is why you are angry” then ask “does that really effect me now or am I allowing it to do so” then become free from that anger and be happy. You can only let anger go when you face it head on and see it for what it is. Not everything will please you all the time, unless you allow it to do so. Sometimes anger will try to overcome you. You must just hold your character strongly and see it for what it is then let it go once it has been arisen. Anger teaches us our character, it tests our character in the moments, and observing your anger will teach you so much about you.
(3)FEAR: Fear is the greatest trap for yourself, when doing something you never fear the input you only fear the outcome. Fear will leave you in a still state becasue that is what fear does. You come up with excuses from fear that reason you into not doing something because you fear what might happen or that it won’t happen the way that you want it to. Fear is something we create in the mind, if you want the greatest outcome then let go of fear. Don’t focus on the outcome rather just focus on the input. If you give all you have into something focusing on being the greatest at that something in that moment, then you can never be dissatisfied with the output, because you’ll be to happy with the results. Fear distracts us from what it is that we really want to do the most. Fear makes us doubt ourselves, and when we doubt ourselves we no longer can devote our greatest potential into what it is that we are doing. That is why fear is the only thing to fear. Fear having fear because having fear is a limitation. Fear limits you to fear and that is the greatest fear to me. Fear driven is always a comfort road. Fear driven will make you play in your comfort zone every time. If you see that fear has arisen, challenge it. Go with what you fear most so that you will grow rather than limit your growth. What we fear for our desires holds the best potential for us. Keep in mind that fear is a survival instinct. Its something that is used to protect us in a situation that could be life threatening toward us. When we attach our motives and choices as our life, making our moves define who we are, then it’s natural for us to feel fear driven. To have that sense of loss in some type of way. You must let go of fear and just pursue with devotion toward what you want, and have no worry of what is to come, just take the pursuit one step at a time giving all that you have with confidence and with passion.
(4)Materialism: A lot of us chase materials. We chose the feelings that we believe that materials will give us, then become greatly dissatisfied when we find that the feeling is not as great as we imagined. Or it’ll come across as we have a great feeling for a material then become so attached to that feeling that when it ceases we no longer have that feeling and we are unhappy about that. Materialistic highs are the greatest high. We love our tangible objects, claiming and interacting with them, giving them more love and attention than what we would even give ourselves. We should be aware to the attachments we have to materials because they really cause unhappiness for us. They provide us with a sense of control, a sense of something we must maintain and we simply struggle to let go of those things. Materials will always come and go so you just must enjoy them at every phase. Enjoy the pursuit to obtain, enjoy the obtaining, and enjoy the letting go. Never become judging of one phase over the other because that attachment will make the other phases seem less fun, less important, less pleasing. That’s why you must just enjoy materials and have fun with them, never pursue something with the thought of what it might bring because you’ll set yourself up for the idea that its not what you expected. Pursue things in an observing factor seeing what it is that they are giving to you and just surprise yourself every time.
(5)NEED FOR APPROVAL: A lot of us live our lives trying to be good enough for someone else, weather its parents or some other form of pressure. When we live to please another being it feels that all we do is not something for ourselves which is simple because it isn’t. Trying to live up to an expectation breeds great self judgement. It’s a criticism cycle that is with you at every moment of your journey. The way to be free from this is simply not to care what it is that people think or what people will think. Just live to please yourself, live to make yourself happy and all else will fall into place. It will naturally just work for you. Don’t worry about what others want, focus on what you want for yourself, only you can know that. Why would you ever let someone else tell you what you want. You have yourself to tell you that. You can learn a lot from what you don’t want from paying attention to what you think others want for you, so see that and learn, and if you already do not care about what others want from you then aye…. that’s fine baby! Love yourself and be happy. Be free from that self criticism and if not, its fine, not caring isn’t hard its just that. Think for yourself, live to please yourself, and overcome your set limitations.
Fear is an illusion of the mind. The (5) main things that cause limitation are just limitation itself, which is not real because you are infinite. Come to realize that you have no worries in this world and that you are in full control of your reality and your own personal satisfaction. Take responsibility and live a happy loving fearless life. You are powerful beyond measure and set limitations are a test for you to see the ability of your own will and inner strength. So stand in the face of limitation, of fear, and watch it back down to you at every time. Continue to grow yourself and live a happy, free life.