Choice is All There Is. How Do You Choose to Feel About That?
This goes for everything from complaining about the economy being the reason why you can’t find a good job, don’t have money, are in debt, blaming your partner for relationship issues, and blaming your boss for “keeping you down” at your job.
These things aren’t “just happening” to you, outside of your control to do anything to change them.
Those situations and circumstances are 100% neutral.
It’s YOU who’s adding an emotional spin to said situations and literally creating your experience of them.
Why you’re choosing to immediately assign X emotion to Y situation is where your personal limiting beliefs and programming lie.
That very programming is the actual habit you’ve been perpetuating that’s been keeping you stuck, aggravated, and apathetic toward things.
Even though you may not have full control over how external situations play out, you have full control over your interpretation – and thus experience – of said external situations.
Your individual interpretation of your experience is all you have to base anything off of. When you forget this truth, you create a habit out of behaving and living unconsciously. This is the #1, root problem for most people. When you solve this issue, all other habits become infinitely easier to tackle, uproot, and change.
If you behave fearfully or anxiously in situations that don’t genuinely warrant it, you have an unconscious definition of a particular belief that’s keeping you locked in that behavior pattern. This unconscious behavior pattern is your actual “bad habit”.
You must 100% consciously accept that you keep repeatedly choosing that choice over another choice.
This is the root cause and source of all “habits”; choosing one type of choice over another for our own arbitrary reasoning.
This reasoning is where your beliefs – as well as your personally assumed limitations – begin and end.
You must consciously embrace full acceptance of responsibility for what you’re already creating, or nothing can change for you.
Why This is an Unpopular Practice for 90% of People
Most will refuse the above, and even go to lengths to deny it and place the blame for their current behavior on something or someone else.
Notice how almost all of these excuses originate from outside of said individual.
They will vehemently claim that it’s someone else’s fault, or some other stress.
Even though they deny responsibility for changing the situation, they still readily admit that the problem is arising from an external conflict.
Until they consciously embrace acceptance and true responsibility however, they disable themselves from solving the root source of those external issues – themselves.
And so the blame game continues, with problems continuing to perpetuate and worsen through time. The true source is ignored, and the individual convinces themselves they are simply unlucky, stupid, have bad timing, and/or all of the above.
This is a double-trap, and you should avoid it at all costs. Berating yourself because you think you’re unlucky or have bad timing is to ask for more of those same things. This is exactly the bad habit we were touching upon above; instead of using your power to move forward, you use it to hold yourself right where you are. This is fine if that’s intentional and what you want, but most people do this unintentionally and don’t want it.
The secret is to do what’s unpopular.
What’s unpopular and uncommon is making it a priority to become progressively more conscious of yourself, the reality experience going on around you, and your connection and relationship to those two things.
By doing so, you gradually loosen the grip of those unconscious habits by becoming more and more aware of them, and thus empower yourself to transcend your previous self-limitations.
By consciously moving through your problems, they cease to exist as problems. They become neutral props for you to overcome in a positive, constructive, loving, and purposeful manner. When you prioritize this practice, your life begins to explode with an ecstatic symphony of synchronicity at every turn.
Bringing conscious light to the unconscious darkness of less-than-stellar behavior patterns and choices is the key to unlocking the doors to your true potential as an individual human being in the twenty first century.