When it comes to how we cope with stress, your personality certainly affects the way you cope. Some people easily handle levels of stress that others would find crippling. As discussed in the second article in this series, our bodies get prepared for a heightened situation through a physical stress response, and it is how we react to this physical response that decides how we feel emotionally. Some of our reactions to our physical stress response are inborn and some we learn throughout our lifetime. So the really good news is that we can re-learn what doesn’t work for us!
Here are some examples of how different personalities relate and react to stress:
The Ambitious Personality: You are often the most stressed, but least willing to change anything about it! You like being in control and power is a driving force for you, and you deny that you are stressed until health ailments forces you to stop.
The Perfectionist: You create a lot of your own stress by setting really high standards for yourself, and you can’t rest till the job is done to your self-imposed, superhuman standards, no matter how long it takes.
The Sensitive Person: You are very susceptible to the sensations of stress and mostly go straight to anxiety when your body has a stress response. Often, a negative conversation will start in your head about how something must be wrong or you must have messed up, since you are experiencing stress.
Clearly we benefit from understanding our own personality and how it interacts with stress, as we can optimize our wellbeing through this Self Awareness: Can I view my stress response as a resource? Do I usually catch this wave of adrenal rush (the butterflies in my belly, the oxygen being pumped to my muscles…) to aid in creating great accomplishments, or do I go to self-blame and anxiety? And once I’ve learnt to release anxiety around stress, is there a tipping point I can learn to recognize when I just can’t feel good anymore? Knowing that a meaningful life will always have some stress in it and since trying to avoid stress can in and of itself actually cause stress, are there things that can be structured differently so that I never get to the point where I’m fighting stress? Am I good at reaching out to others for support?
Now might be a wonderful time for you to Get Good At Stress, and – as with most areas in life – I believe that our Self Talk will help us or hinder us. If you can become more acutely aware of the constant chatter that goes on in our minds and can edit it moment to moment to strengthen you / comfort you/ bring kindness, you become proactive in finding the self-talk that serves and supports you and eliminate those thoughts that are bringing you down.
Studies tell us beyond a doubt that social connection in the workplace decreases burnout. Another tool that might help you get better at stress is to know that sometimes it strengthens us to go from self-focus to a bigger-than-self-focus. Though it may seem counter-productive to give of your time when it seems you are really short on it, the act of helping a co-worker or helping out in your community / team / organization etc., actually gives you a sense of time expansion. Simultaneously you benefit emotionally as your brains shifts and you go from worrying if you are good enough to viewing your efforts as serving a purpose bigger than yourself. This leaves you feeling hopeful, curious, caring, grateful, inspired and excited.Watch Full Movie Online Streaming Online and Download
Those who are really good a stress see it as a normal aspect of life, they are likely to acknowledge their stress and they see it as an opportunity to grow.
Today’s Transformational Practice: Using this information, can you see stressful instances where you experience fear or worry, which expresses itself as a lack of kindness towards yourself? If so, can you make today about monitoring your Self Talk and tweak it ever so gently into a kinder place? Practice this whenever you can and slowly, gently, a shift will happen where the fear diminishes as you feel safer, having your own back, so to speak.