Many people think happiness, both professional and personal, is based on having a bigger house, nicer car, larger income. It’s all about better, faster, higher, more.
Yet the happiest people I know focus a lot more on what they do, not on what they have. They see a great outcome as a wonderful by-product of a personal journey and not a primary goal. In short, their perspectives and beliefs are different.
To live a more joyful life, try adopting a few of those beliefs:
1. The best success is shared success.
Solo success is rewarding.
Achieving something with another person or a team is awesome. Not only do you feel good about yourself, you feel great about other people–and you create a connection that can last a lifetime.
And if you do fail, you fail together, which makes that failure a lot easier to take and provides the support to help you try again.
2. Comparisons kill.
No matter how successful you are there will always be someone who is more successful. No matter how big your business gets, there will always be a bigger business. Unless you’re Serena Williams or Stephen Hawking or Bill Gates, there will always someone better or smarter or richer.
To be happy, only compare yourself to the person you were yesterday–and to the person you hope someday to become. You may never be the best, but you will gain incredible satisfaction from being the best you that you can possibly be.
That’s all you can control–and all that really matters.
3. A body is a terrible thing to waste.
When you were a kid you sometimes ran simply for the joy of running. You jumped and rolled and skipped because it felt good. Without thinking, you used your body as a way to celebrate being alive.
Now you don’t.
Try something for me. Go ride a bike. Or jump on a trampoline. Sure, it’s a little awkward now, but it’s still really fun. Or swim, or play a game, or take a hike or a long walk.
You might get a little bummed because you’ll realize you’re no longer young but you’ll also find out you’re not as old as you think.
And you’ll realize there’s still a kid inside you. That realization alone will make you happier and, in time, will help you see the world and your place in it in a different and better way.
Jeff Haden, Inc. Magazine, learned much of what he knows about business and technology as he worked his way up in the manufacturing industry from forklift driver to manager of a 250-employee book plant.